mrow sso im amab and am liike,
i id as both transmasc and transfem, cuz i oscillate around androgyny, but i like being a boy (in like a trans boy way not a cis man way)
i also id HEAVILY w cats (sorry for caps ><) so like theyres that ig. i i sometimes get stuff that says i either havd to be a girl cuz im amab, or i have to be enby and use theythem, or im just a dumb cis boy chasing clout and and just uwaaa ;-;
im not very comfortable reading about alot of transfem mtf stuff esp around like body tips and idk as well as just hrt in general with both t and e mrowrr and i just cant handle it ><< i think bc of ll the times people hav told me i need to and its its bad
also cuz im a trans catboy people r like ur a furry or ur a therian , which… i i dont quite fit there eitherrrr >~<
is all this just the usual imposter syndrom plus heavy socual anxiety or or am i doing sonething wrong?
in need of advice and probably hugs aswell, max ur local friendly catboy who just wan friends ><<
thankyouuuz vermuch, sorry for the textdump ><
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Well, it’s finally happened. I’ve reached the age where I cannot decipher the younger generation’s slang.
oh dont worry, we chat a lot and I sometimes cant understand his keysmashing and catboy-speech either X3
Someone should create a translator bot for lemmy
meow if u need any help i can translate words if u want !!
Yep, I used to be with it…
Nah, you’re not doing anything wrong. There’s no one way to do femininity or masculinity. Medically transitioning just because people say you should is a recipe for disaster.
I will say, you’re stereotyping trans men. I get the point you’re trying to get across, but there’s a large portion of trans men whose masculinity is very similar to cis men. They’re not as visible online and in public discourse because many are stealth. Just keep that in mind.
Regardless, you are welcome in this community. Being non-binary has no set template, and you are just as valid as anyone else. I’m sure you’ll find some friends here, and I wish you all the best.
PS. This instance has a public matrix channel. If you don’t know, matrix is similar to discord. It might be another good option for making friends. https://matrix.to/#/#blahaj:chat.blahaj.zone
meowz didng mean to imply that trans men arent men >< it was more meant in a “can i be a amab trans boy who isnt thst masculine way” >< annd like im not fully comfy being called enby cuz im a boyyy aa >< idk i may be just a bit brokey ><
I didn’t interpert it as you saying trans men aren’t men, just that all trans men ascribe to a certain form of masculinity. There are trans men who are soft twinks and paint their nails, and there are trans men who are bodybuilders and go hunting, and many who are both or neither, just like with cis men. There are trans men who are sweet and kind and there are trans men who are misogynistic assholes (see: Buck Angel).
Also, didn’t mean to assume you were non-binary. My bad.
Is the word you’re looking for demiboy, femboy, softboy, gender fluid, or something along those lines? There’s an LGBTQ wiki that has a list of all those specialty terms, specific identities, and sexualities, which might be helpful. You’re also under no obligation to label your gender identity, if that’s what you prefer.
oh i didnt mean to say that sorryz ><
mrow i think softboy and femboy describe me, although i think catboy is best for me mrrp >w<
thank u lots for the help an advice <33
Glad to be of help. I wish you all the best in your gender journey.
mods u can delete this post if it dont fit im sorry if i misread what this community was for :<
You’re good. Vent posts are fine and this community provides support for trans people.
okiez thankyouu ><
Advice I’m useless for but hugs I can do
hugs
thamkyouu >< i luv hugs mrrtp thankyouz
First of all, how old are you? Like you don’t have to be any form of trans, just be gender nonconforming, genderfluid, a gender, whatever. If you want to explore HRT later that’s fine, but doesn’t sound like something you want which is valid. Don’t feel like you have to be trans.
meow i am trans, im just not like trans in the typical way cuz im also gnc >w< hrt is not something i wamt (unless theres like perfectly andro or a catboy hrt >.<)
Omg Maaax :(! These people r stupid, u know who u r and if they dont like it they can go fuck right off, there’s nothing wrong with u, u dont need to do anything just cuz some dumbass says so, just ignore them and find better people that dont judge u for who u r, u’re awesome <3
and if anyone annoys u just tell me and I’ll make sure they chill the fuck down :3
thamkyou mia >< mrowwr <3
