Yeah, but society at large has issues with exceptional gender expressions.

Cis people can struggle with their own gender identity when other cis people force expectations onto them.

The difference is that cis people don’t have to assert a gender different from what they were assigned at birth.

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I’m literally not but you clearly have no interest in understanding the words I wrote, so I’ll just drop it.

practically everybody has been told to behave differently because “boys do X” or “girls do Y”.

I wish people would leave me the fuck alone when they think I’m not being a man correctly.

This is what I mean by ‘on a surface level.’

Oppositional sexism demands that those born in male bodies do masculine things, and those born in female bodies do feminine things. In other words it demands that everybody, not just those who are trans, conform to socially expected performances of gender.

However, cis people are afforded the security in feeling that their birth gender is the one that is ‘correct’ for them.

Cis people largely feel gender entitlement (projecting one’s own perception of gender onto other people, and privileging those perceptions over the way others understand themselves), hence:

A lot of people don’t really care much about what their gender is

Trans people do not get this privilege. Trans people face the same oppositional sexism that cis people do (that all people that exhibit exceptional gender expressions do), as well as having to face cis people’s gender entitlement being pushed onto them.

All this to say the joke is that the subject of the meme is in denial about their transness, and they are assuming that everybody feels the same way. The meme is a transfem centered meme- cis people may not get the joke; however many people DO care about their gender identity, but some identities are privileged over others.

On a surface level, sure, but most cis people never really have to grapple much with their gender identity.

For my girlies: does anyone have a good recommendation for a sports bra or better yet a sports bra camisole? As well as a bralette suggestion.

I wanted to get something from Kohl’s the other day but the sizing seemed small on the nike sports bra camisole they had.

Oh my bad I’m confusing it for another manga.

Yeah Love me for who I am is definitely one of the best trans/queer manga.

Nevada helped me come to terms with the fact that I’d been repressing some of these feelings. It also really helped with internalizing that there’s no one singular “right” way to transition.

And also Whipping Girl, to echo what Ada said in this thread: It helped push me towards my path of transfeminism.

To a lesser extent (because I stopped reading early in the book due to ADHD tendencies) Otros Valles by Jamie Berrout. Reading a story (again, even what little of it i did read) by another trans Latina helped me build a bit more confidence in myself.

Btw dear reader, both Nevada and Whipping Girl are freely available for reading online! I always highly recommend both of these books, especially to other transfems or people just interested in being better allies to their transfem loved ones!!!

I liked it in general but IMO the chapter near the end at the school festival left me feeling kinda bad about the whole thing because it felt like the author pulled a hard 180.

1. To be a safe space for trans/NB/gender diverse individuals

2. GMT-7/Pacific

3. I never bothered modding on reddit but I have small amounts of modding experience in general. Currently modding a few small comms here but never done anything bigger than a few dozen users.

4. I like the fact that it’s a general trans community for discussion and news. I enjoy talking about the trans experience in general so I feel at home here when I do contribute. I’m not sure what I’d improve, I’m very much a ‘play it by ear’ kind of person.

5. I don’t have any experience with bots on lemmy but I do have a bit of python experience and would enjoy the opportunity expand my knowledge on it.

FYI Meganium97 deleted their account suddenly after I posted in our meta comm to please not do the same thing we nearly defederated programming.dev over. (accusing trans users of not actually being trans)

fwiw I anonymized their username when I posted it here but they came forward and apologized but then they started doubling down on it before deleting their account. https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/7453376?scrollToComments=true

Oh that’s great to hear!

I’d be weary to reach out to Twitter and tiktok for fear of attracting too many trolls. They seem like worse cesspools than Tumblr and reddit at the moment, especially Twitter.

Very true, recruiting from those two would take quite a bit of vetting at first.

It’s unfortunate but it’s how it is. i wouldn’t really know where the online trans man spaces are, but I’ve known more trans masc individuals irl vs trans femmes.

I’ve heard there’s bigger communities on tumblr, tiktok, and twitter. I do wonder if lemmy could grow by reaching out to these spaces, but I also know how hostile some social media sites are to other forms of social media.

Presumably it’s a result of so many users being ex-reddit users, so the demographics reflect the equally disparate situation of reddit.

people are allowed to be on multiple instances lmao.

she’s a trans user posting trans content in the trans subcommunity on the gender diverse instance.

Ah alright, yeah a lot of anti-tankie sentiment is concentrated online. Other spaces tend to be a lot less sectarian or at least more willing to listen/put aside differences.

What’d you mean by this?

I’ll be honest I think I confused his subreddit with him.

https://www.reddit.com/r/VaushV/comments/14ny7py/horsefuck_okbv_had_reopened_however_we_reclosed/

The meme group made a com here (it has 331 subs but seems to be mostly dead at the moment)

196 also made a post with lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/196 mentioned

https://www.reddit.com/r/196/comments/146y2qw/r196_offsite_migration_discord_info/

Reddit 196 has(had?) a lot of vaushites in their userbase and so that carried over here.