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Cake day: August 5th, 2023

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  • I started transitioning in my 30s. I took YEARS before I ever came out to family/most of my friends. I took my time because I have kids and I didn’t want to rush anything. (Also, I had to build up the courage to come out haha). During the years of me socially transitioning I started updating my wardrobe to be more andro, started growing my hair out, practicing light makeup occasionally, etc.

    After a couple years I started feeling more ready and I started coming out to friends. Felt good, felt freeing to be able to be myself around them. Then I came out to my immediate family (parents, siblings , children)- by far the hardest part. Not long after, I was out at work. I do feel that me having a head start of two years of dialing in my hormones really helped make me coming out socially that much easier. I don’t regret taking my time on the social transition!

    Even after taking a coupl years before starting my social transition I knew there was more to come, and here 7 years later I do feel like I still am transitioning even though I’m passing pretty much all the time. Life is a journey, and transitioning is a long journey even when done well. No surgery or wardrobe change can make things happen overnight. I’ve enjoyed the journey and I’m excited for each year ahead as I continue 😊



  • Ok ok… So me using Lemmy.world is a specific instance of Lemmy, so it’s almost like its own server? And other instances (maybe lemmy.unitiedstates?) is its own federated instance likely related to just U.S. posts and it can communicate with other instances? Do de-federated instances have no other communication with instances?

    Apologies if these are silly, I feel like a dum dum because everyone else seems to grasp this except me.