• oNevia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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    7 months ago

    “to learn more and be a good ally”

    Yeah, I have found a lot of eggs are just “really good alliesTM”

    I was one. I remember I accidentally asked a little too many questions about my and my wife’s non-binary friend before my egg cracked. Kept phrasing it as “I just want to make sure they’re comfortable and they know I really care about them and think this is great… for them obviously”

    My wife says that is when she knew and about a month later I came out as trans to her (and myself)

    So yes. My wife knew before I did. 😅

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      7 months ago

      After I finally came out to my parents, my stepmom told me she figured I was queer the day she met me. Would have been nice if they’d said something! 🙃

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        7 months ago

        Tell me about it! Although to be fair, soooo many bullies growing up called me gay. And the best defense I could come up with was always “not like you would know!”

        Never a direct “of course I’m not!” Because it always felt on some level true. But boys were gross. So definitely couldn’t be gay.

        So years of people saying I was gay and me not believing them - turns out they’re right. I am gay, lol. Just not how anyone thought 😅