Fantastic game. One of the ones that has stuck with me through the years.

The more I think about it, the more it makes sense.

Aside from politics, most things suck. Comedy helps most of us get through it. If you can’t find a reason to laugh at <absurd/sad thing>, all you have is <absurd/sad thing>.

I remember feeling this way about the cut scenes in Dante’s Inferno on Xb360.

Panino

I instinctually downvoted that. I don’t think you’re a bad person, and this picture is so perfect for this post, but damn. You coulda just let me go on living my life, not knowing this fucking thing existed.

Thanks for delivering!

Can you share it now?

Why is the onus on everyone else? Generally speaking, I believe that if something is making someone upset/hurt, it’s on them to let the other person know that. Without deep, intimate knowledge of the other person (and honestly, even with that level of relationship), it’s hard to know when something that is ok to you is completely offensive to the other person.

And just for emphasis, this is my belief in general - not just in the context of misgendering trans peeps. I feel like it’s not fair to stay mad at someone for crossing a line they didn’t even know existed. I’ve applied this mentality to my marriage, and it’s honestly done wonders for improving my relationship with my husband and has opened up so much room for honest communication and building respect/trust in each other.

But there are so many different types of people in the world. How is someone expected to know that something is specifically offensive to one person, unless that person tells them?

I habitually refer to everyone as “dude”, but I certainly would stop calling someone “dude” if they asked me to stop. I know a lot of people feel the same way that I do, so please let it be known if you’re uncomfortable with certain terms. Sure, there are people that are going to be total assholes about it, but I’d say that’s a great indicator to steer clear of that person.