I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Nah do it like they do in Europe. Pictures of what it looks like to be held to the bed screaming by a 19y/o who had no idea what they signed up for while an ICU nurse shoves a tube up your ass so that the diarrhea they induced to rebalance your ammonia doesn’t dissolve your anus as quickly except she can’t get the tube to stay in because your anus has already been slightly dissolved so she keeps shoving the tube back in and you’re still screaming because you’re in acute alcohol withdrawal and the terrified child they’re paying $12 an hour to help the ICU nurse restrain you seems to have snakes crawling out of their dinner-plate sized eyes.




  • I’ve been making obsidian vaults/notebooks actually! Earlier this year I made one about tarot cartomancy and what I guess you could call Christian Esotericism (connecting myself to many of the cultural traditions while eschewing most of the traditional bodies of authority) and right now I’m working on a basic/informal intro to DBT for people struggling to access talk therapies due to poverty and/or rural living.



  • I’m genuinely not sure if this is in jest or not. The way I know this is common is that it’s a common thread across human interest pieces about sex work. I grew up with those rare fundie parents that were big on education so anything they got weird about I just read about and they were more or less fine with that, so I just started reading about sex and have since gone on numerous multimonth ADHD hyperfixation learning binges about various aspects including both anatomy and physiology and the psychological and cultural ones. A good couple of them have either centered on or referenced sex work in some way. I don’t think I’m brave enough personally but it’s definitely fascinating.


  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldThe Art of the Deal
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    Also I don’t think people realize how much time a (skilled / knowledgeable) sex worker spends vetting their clients. They’re one of the easiest and therefore most common demographics targeted by people who literally just wanna rape-torture-murder someone for varying to absolutely no reason. As a result a lot of sex workers have shared blacklists, some ask for references, some do background checks, some don’t work alone, etc. Only having to do that once or even not at all once the john is well-known is a huge time-and-effort saver, even if you ignore the fact that it’s just literally safer to take a chance on one man murdering you instead of five.




  • I’ve never had too bad of a problem, I’ve gotten in habits of drinking too much (up to an 8-pack every night off) but I’ve always been able to cut back or stop if I needed to. That said, I stopped talking to my fundie parents about 6 months ago and it’s somehow 10x easier to not drink and I’m feeling a lot better physically than I was around this time last year.


  • Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneXkcd rule
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    And then half of them in any room are missing one knob or the other, a quarter are jammed, and a sixth are broken in some very specific way that has actually improved them somehow. Every start of every shift is a fucking cagematch in the fishbowl to get an unbroken or perfectly broken in chair. Don’t get me started on the mobile workstations. There’s only one that still gets tall enough to not fuck up my neck, and it’s the same one with the screen big enough for my aggressively elderly coworkers and I’m not that much of an asshole so if you don’t get the good one you just have to figure out which damage or fundamental design flaw you want to screw you mid-shift and I have an extremely unpredictable workload shift-to-shift.


  • I’m getting pretty sick of people blaming the jobs themselves. I firmly believe that’s another one of capitalism’s psyops to convince us we’re lazy and selfish for not wanting to put up with its bullshit anymore.

    I actually love my job itself, even the butt-wiping. Tbh the butt wiping has actually been one of the better parts of my job, because I get to help someone who is uncomfortable and unable to do anything about it get comfortable again. From what I can tell most people are actually like that if you make sure they have what they need. I find most people will try to help others as long as they’re taken care of enough themselves, capitalism just refuses to allow that. If we help each other, we don’t have to pay to be helped.

    It’s the capitalist influence that’s consistently rotting the heart and soul out of everything, not the actual work of connecting with and caring for other humans. I think the propaganda has gotten good at making us forget that.




  • yes, screw the quadriplegics so you can feel good about staying on your moral high ground. Your hill to live and die on takes much higher priority than people who can’t shift their own body weight developing holes in their ass I can fit my fist in but still not be able to see the bone because it’s covered in maggots. Yeah there need to be guardrails in place to keep him from doing silly shit with it and make sure it’s affordable for the people who need it, but a) the technology is still in it’s infancy b) how about you put all this piss and vinegar towards political action to beef up the FDA (who are already regulating this situation per the linked article?). While you’re at it the CDC could use a little more money and public backing too. How about you go out into the world and encourage people to trust scientific institutions more? There are about a thousand different ways you could be expressing these morals in a way that actually helps people instead of just making you feel better about yourself.


  • For a technology that could someday help a quadriplegic interact with the world fully and independently again I’m willing to tolerate some hitches. There’s a reason they didn’t pick some full on walkie talkie for their first human trial, and there’s a reason that kid looked motherucking hyped to have brand new technology that he’s the first human to even try installed directly into his fucking brain. The problem is abled people thinking this is fundamentally for them. Bby no, they’re trying to help people walk again, even if the legs are robots. You’re looking at the wrong risk-benefit profile.